Before the Wedding, Part 1

Meeting My Love

As part of my New Year’s 2008 goals I decided that I needed to distance myself from past relationships and start anew.  The way I started this was to join eHarmony.  I wasn’t sure if this would work for me or not, I had previously joined Match and didn’t have any luck, and met several jerks.  I went on a few dates with one guy who was very nice, just not for me.  I changed a few settings I had on my profile and Ryan was the first match to pop up.  We went through the prerequisite multiple choice and short answer questions before meeting for coffee.

Here are some examples of the questions we answered for each other (and yes, these are the actual questions):

Charlotte’s question to Ryan:
1.  Describe an interest you have that you would truly hope your partner could share with you.
I enjoy travelling and I hope that my partner would too. I have an interest in cars and several times a year I drive down to Austin for a weekend to drive through Hill Country along Lake Travis with an exotic car club. Other times I travel to Arkansas and the Ozarks to explore and camp. I’ve been to 40 out of the 50 states exploring everything this great country has to offer. I loved touring Europe two years ago (my favorite places are Switzerland, Northern Italy and Bavaria) and I look forward to upcoming trips to France and Denmark for work. I work in a very international setting and always meeting people from difference places and cultures – I am amazed at all the unique places there are in the world – I want to visit and experience them all! I believe it’s important for my partner to be excited to do these types of activities and really enjoy them.

Ryan’s question to Charlotte:
2.  Describe an interest you have that you would truly hope your partner could share with you.

I love love love to DANCE!!!!!!!! (Ok, I like to travel too, but you already took that one). I don’t expect my partner to be awesome at dancing, by no means am I, but he has to be at least willing to try it. Dancing is something that I have found joy in since I was 5 and I hope to share that with someone.


After our first meeting I was really interested in knowing more about this man.  He made me laugh, was so smart, and of course very handsome.  The thing I love about our relationship is that I never had any doubts about him.  I never had to question if I wanted to see him again or not, it was a given.  Here is the first picture we took together at a Spazmatic’s concert.



You want to make God laugh? Tell him your future plans. -Woody Allen

I recently found a box of projects at my mom’s house that I made throughout my school years.  Inside one of my very beautiful, very professional looking “Books about Me” I found a list of plans for my life.  After reading through where I thought my life would be at the age of 28, I felt extremely disappointed in how things have gone to accomplish those goals.  After reflecting and thinking more about it, I know that I am so happy and wouldn’t have been able to accomplish some of the things that I am proud of if my life turned out the way I imagined it would.  Just because you might be curious, here are some things that stuck out to me in my list of plans.

-Be married and have 2 children
-Drive a Ford Taurus
-Be a teacher

I turned 28 this past June.  I barely made the marriage cut off.  I was married to the love of my live on April 10, 2010, at the ripe age of 27.  I do not have any children, and we plan to wait a little while before starting our family.  Funny thing is I actually have driven a Ford Taurus as one of my company cars (it was actually the Ford 500 at the time, which they have changed the name BACK to the Taurus now).  Once I reached college age the hopes of becoming a teacher was never explored.  I loved all of my science classes in high school so continued this path with the hopes of becoming a doctor.  I realized after getting to college that the people that want to be doctors are crazy!  I wanted to be social, join a sorority, and have a “college” experience, which were all difficult things to do while maintaining the 4.0 required for medical school admission.  Also, spending 8+ years past college in higher education did not seem like something I would enjoy very much.  I ending up finding a career that I love and am good at in healthcare sales.  Unfortunately I am currently unemployed, but know that there is an amazing opportunity out there somewhere.  One of the reasons I am starting this blog is because I listened to a talk in a networking group I belong to about “having an online presence”.  Maybe people will read this, maybe not, but it will allow me to put my thoughts about various topics down.

This blog is going to be about my quest to find life and fulfillment.  Do I know what I need to get these things?  No, but hopefully through this process they will reveal themselves.  Some of the topics I would like to talk about in my random thoughts are: being married, looking for a job, spiritual lessons, my awesome cat Rival, books, and the joys of homeownership (that being sometimes sarcastic, and sometimes not).  I am new to the blog universe, so please bear with me as I start this journey.